Your questions dictate the direction you focus and therefore the direction of your destiny.
People don't realise this and wonder why they have failed again and they don't even realise that their life was decided in a subconscious question.
So what can you do? You need to be aware of the questions you ask.
1)When you ask bad questions you need to replace them with good ones. i.e.
a) Catch yourself when you ask yourself bad questions and notice them.
b) Replace them with a better question.
2) Ask good questions in the morning to set you up for the day
3) During the day you need to ask good questions to direct your focus
4) Before going to sleep you need to ask good questions to let your subconscious focus on overnight and to prepare for the following day.
So lets see that in more detail
1.Bad questions and their good replacements
Why does this always happen to me? Replace this What can I learn from this or How can I improve for next time?
Saying why does this happen to me has a assumption that you are a victim and powerless and your thoughts and destiny are focused on being a poor victim. When you change this to what can I learn or how I can I improve for next time you are immediately transformed into a positive action world where you are in control and can make your world better.
I'm useless. Replace this with what 3 things can I do to get better or who can I learn from. When you say you are useless you are deleting part of the sentence, i.e, useless compared to what - an olympic athlete, a professional? Again replacing with an action phrase make you feel better and gives you more options.
2.Morning questions
What am I most grateful for?
You can't be grateful and angry/fearful at the same time. Numerous studies have shown that being grateful makes you feel better. It is an easy way to feel great.
Who can I send a thank you note to?
The first email you send should always be a thank you or I think you are great email. This makes you feel great (as you are the sort of person who would do something like this and make other people feel great) and you build your social network which makes you feel more secure and makes you feel better.
3.During the day questions
What am I most proud of?
Thinking of this reminds you of what you have achieved.
What am I most excited about in my life right now?
This makes you feels more energized and action oriented.
4.Evening questions
What have I learned today?
You should always learn something every day, otherwise you are missing an opportunity to progress.
What are my 3 things to do tomorrow
This lets your subconscious focus on the tasks at hand. One trick is to see these 3 tasks as already done and experience the feelings you have after they have been completed.
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