If I were to tell you that you could change your life and be successful and all you needed was a rubber band, you would probably think I was crazy but it's an experiment lots of people have done and found to be truly empowering.
So what is this about? This is based on the original 21 day no complaint challenge by Will Bowen, popularised by Tim Ferriss.
The 21 Day No Complaint Challenge
The original challenge from (Will Bowen) is to go 21 days without complaining. So what do you do?
1) Put your rubber band on your wrist. You have now started and are on day 1 of the challenge.
2) When you complain you move the rubber band to the other wrist. You are now back to day 1. Every time you complain you have to swap the rubber band and go back to day 1.
3) The goal is to go 21 days without moving the rubber band to the other wrist (ie not complaining).
Why should you do it ?
Tim Ferriss comments on this in his article 'Real Mind Control: The 21 Day No Complaint Experiment'.
He found the following things happened.
1) Instead of complaining he started thinking what could he do/create to avoid this happening in future.
2) He was able to turn off negative thoughts as he had to give a solution instead of just continuing with the complaining (The complaining just kept open - loops in GTD (Get things done) talk which just result in you wasting energy). This resulted in better sleep and nicer conversations.
3) He found this attracted people to him as people want to be around action orientated problem solvers.
From my point of view, doing this exercise gives you back control of your life. When something goes wrong and you blame the weather, your boss, the other guy, it means that you have given away your power. Not complaining means you have to think of a solution. You also have to accept that it is your responsibility to do something about it.
You have the power and suddenly the world has changed.
Showing posts with label charisma. Show all posts
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Tuesday, April 24, 2018
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The secret to becoming more charismatic in just 2 minutes a day for 21 days - (Slatcher & Pennebaker, 2006)
Would you like to become more charismatic and a better leader in 21 days by doing a 2 minute exercise a day? Here is a great talk by Shawn Achor on how to do that. Fascinating, inspiring and empowering.
This is the one that is least adopted especially at the senior leadership level. It's the most powerful intervention we have on record right now for raising other people's perception of your positive charisma that is compared to any leadership training that we've seen so far. The reason is that this is so successful is what we have you do is over the past 24 hours you think about one meaningful experience you've had, just one and it could be very small, a conversation you had with a client, with a child, seeing a sunset, watching snowfall in London, maybe it was a book you were reading, whatever, for 2 minutes that is it, into a blank word document you just write down every detail you can remember about the experience and done. You don't talk about your whole day. Just for 2 minutes just write down every detail you can remember. The reason you are doing that is that you are actually getting your brain to relive that experience because if I hold my hand in front of my face, area 17 of my visual cortex lights up and says hand. Close my eyes and think about my hand in front of my face and area 17 of my visual cortex lights up and says hand. My brain can't tell the difference between visualisation and actual experience. So when you do this you've just doubled the most meaningful experience of your past 24 hours. You do this for 21 days in a row and your brain connects the cognitive dots for you, creating a trajectory of meaning running throughout your life. So now those emails that you have, those meetings, the commute you have actually wrap around the trajectory of meaning, which raises your authenticity. Authenticity is just ajudged by how meaning connects to the actual activities you are doing within your life. When authenticity rises, if we take videos of you guys speaking, and show it to naive raters, 21 days after doing a journaling exercise like this. Even though those raters don't know you or know that you are doing the journaling exercise, they judge you as having significantly higher levels of positivity and charisma as a leader. It is remarkable.
This is the one that is least adopted especially at the senior leadership level. It's the most powerful intervention we have on record right now for raising other people's perception of your positive charisma that is compared to any leadership training that we've seen so far. The reason is that this is so successful is what we have you do is over the past 24 hours you think about one meaningful experience you've had, just one and it could be very small, a conversation you had with a client, with a child, seeing a sunset, watching snowfall in London, maybe it was a book you were reading, whatever, for 2 minutes that is it, into a blank word document you just write down every detail you can remember about the experience and done. You don't talk about your whole day. Just for 2 minutes just write down every detail you can remember. The reason you are doing that is that you are actually getting your brain to relive that experience because if I hold my hand in front of my face, area 17 of my visual cortex lights up and says hand. Close my eyes and think about my hand in front of my face and area 17 of my visual cortex lights up and says hand. My brain can't tell the difference between visualisation and actual experience. So when you do this you've just doubled the most meaningful experience of your past 24 hours. You do this for 21 days in a row and your brain connects the cognitive dots for you, creating a trajectory of meaning running throughout your life. So now those emails that you have, those meetings, the commute you have actually wrap around the trajectory of meaning, which raises your authenticity. Authenticity is just ajudged by how meaning connects to the actual activities you are doing within your life. When authenticity rises, if we take videos of you guys speaking, and show it to naive raters, 21 days after doing a journaling exercise like this. Even though those raters don't know you or know that you are doing the journaling exercise, they judge you as having significantly higher levels of positivity and charisma as a leader. It is remarkable.
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