THIS is the FIRST Thing I BOUGHT With My MONEY! | Zlatan Ibrahimovic | T...

Grab a snack and chew on today's lessons from a man who went from growing up poor in a ghetto, almost quitting his football career when he was 15 in favor of working at the docks in Malmo, to becoming one of the best strikers in the game, and one of the best football players ever! He's Zlatan Ibrahimovic and see Evan's take on his Top 10 Rules for Success Volume 2!







Summary

1. Be confident
2. Don't chase money
3. Give people what they want
4. Make no excuses
5. Grow from difficulties
6. Just be yourself
7. Don't compare to others
8. Be a conqueror
9. Prove them wrong
10. Live on the edge

Emotional Freedom Secrets - Emotions Make Good Servants But Bad Masters

Imagine the impact on your life, if you could switch to high performance states at will.
Many of us believe that we can't control our emotions but let me ask you this.

Have you ever been feeling down and then had a call from an old friend and then felt great. Or have you felt good and heard a song that reminded you of an old love.  You've immediately and instantly changed from sad to happy and happy to sad. Nothing in the external world has changed but your emotional states have been changed by triggers.

NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) Calls these triggers Anchors. The ones I mentioned are external but you can  create internal ones that you can use at will to be able to change your state and emotions. It is really amazing!

Another example is to think of a really enjoyable experience, a time when you felt really good. Go into that experience  and notice what you see and what you hear and re-live this memory.Notice how you feel and when you are ready return to the present. Notice the impact this has on your present state, especially your posture and breathing. Although the sights and sounds of the past are gone, the actual feeling is still very real. Whatever you were feeling before this paragraph you have now put yourself into a resourceful state.

In contrast think back to a slightly uncomfortable past experience. Imagine yourself back in that situation. What are you seeing? What can hear? How do you feel? Don't stay long and return to the present. How do you feel? Notice your state and your posture and your breathing.

Now change your state, do some exercise or move.

Some people have mastered their ability to change their state at will, creating for themselves and emotional freedom that transforms the quality of their lives. They fully experience the ups and downs of life but they learn , move on and do not dwell on emotional pain unnecessarily.

We can influence our states , rather than simply react to what happens on the outside. In the last few minutes, you have felt good, then uncomfortable, then..however you feel now. And nothing has actually happened in the outside world. You have done all this yourself.

So how can you control your states and fire these 'anchors'

1. Identify the situation where you want to be more resourceful
2. Identify the particular resource you want, e.g confidence.
3. Find an occasion in your life when you had that resource
4. Select and anchor (a trigger) you are going to use.
           i) physical anchor - e.g. touch your thumb  to your index finger
           ii) hearing anchor - e.g. confidence
           iii) visual anchor - choose a symbol or remember what you were seeing when you were
                  feeling  confident
5. Step fully into the the experience of that resourceful state..  Relive that experience as if you are seeing it and hearing it. What can you see? What can you hear? What can you feel, taste and smell? Really get into it.
6. When it comes up to the peak , fire your 3 anchors (i.e. touch your physical anchor (eg touch your thumb to your index finger) , hear you hearing anchor ('confidence') and see your visual anchor..
7. Think of something else.
8. Repeat steps 5 to 7 a few times.
9. Identify a signal that lets you know you are in that situation where you need this resource. This will remind you when to use your anchor.

These techniques take practice and the more you practice the more you will be able to control your emotional state.

If you find this interesting and amazing , there is a great to read to find out more. It's called 'Introducing NLP 'by Joseph O'Conner and John Seymour.  Click here for the link.

7 techniques to feel better and be successful - Tony Robbins

We all go through ups and downs and sometimes you just keep telling yourself to feel confident but your brain and body don't believe you. That's because you are communicating in the wrong way. Here are 7 techniques to improve how you feel and get success that I've found from Tony Robbins.

 The techniques are:

1 Model someone else for a few days
2 Priming
3 Absolute certainty
4 Change your focus 

5 Change your focus - use questions 
6 Immediate feeling change - think
7 Immediate feeling change - action

1.Model someone else for a few days

We all create an identify for ourselves. You can tell someone's identity by the gestures they have, the way they move. It's all to do with your belief system.

One thing that we all try and do is being consistent. So we talk in our heads to be more confident but it doesn't work. So what can you do?

The easiest thing to do is pretend to be someone else for a few days. Eg who is the most confident person you know (or if you can't think of someone think of someone from TV or film). Then just act like them for a week. Move like them, talk like them, have a posture like them. Think like them, behave like them. It might be difficult at first but if you get a few successes then it will build momentum and you will find it easier and easier.

2.Priming

Tony Robbins has a morning priming routing, which creates a rapid change in his physiology. Why don't you try something similar?  His program goes something like this:

1. Cold water plunge ( but you could just have a quick cold shower) 
2. Breath walking: Simply walk for a few minutes using a breathing cycle of 4 short inhales through the nose, then 4 short exhales through the mouth 
3. For 3 minutes feel grateful. Fill your soul with gratitude because when you are grateful it is impossible to be angry or fearful at the same time. 
4. For the next 3 minutes have a total focus on the feeling of the universe coming in and healing everything in your body, mind, emotions, relationships, finances and solving anything that needs to be solved. 
5. For the last 3 minutes, focus on three things that you are going to make happen. See it as though its already been done. Feel the emotions. 

3.Absolute certainty

Many people try something without conviction and then fail and then they say, see I told you it doesn't work. But you've got to be certain. But how can you be certain in a world of uncertainty? The trick is to think of the results in your head as if its already happened successfully.

4.Change your focus 

Seek and you shall find. Whatever you focus on you find. It is like when you buy a new car and then you see the same make of car everywhere but before you didn't. Your brain filters out and if you focus on the  negative then you will find the negative and it will take you into a negative direction. Focus on positive things, how you can improve, what great things you can do, how you can help yourself and your friends.

5 Change your focus - use questions 

Your focus is controlled by the questions you ask continually. If you ask questions like why does it happen to me, why I can't I lose weight you will find negative answers. Instead ask questions like what can I learn from this to be better next time or how can I lose weight and have fun.

6.Immediate feeling change - think

When you are trying to do something but in the wrong mood it doesn't work so how can you change? Try the following

1. Shake your body out. 
2. Think what are you proud of or what could you be proud of in your life today? Maybe you overcame a problem or did something good? Now when you feel proud, how do you breathe, how do you stand, how do you move, how do you think, how do you feel? 
3. Think of an area you are grateful for. Really get into the feeling. How do you feel? 
4. Think of something you are excited about. How do you feel? How do you speak? 

If you really get into this feelings your state should have changed.

7.Immediate feeling change - action

Emotion is created by motion. It is hard to talk your way to feeling better but action helps change how you feel. So take action. Shake your body, stand taller and start doing. Immediate massive actions is the cure all for everything. Do it and if the initial action doesn't work, change it and redo

The Secret To Be A Great Speaker And Never Be Lost For Words

Are you scared of speaking in  front of an audience? Do you never know what to say? Do you find yourself lost for words? Are your petrified of speaking?

Most people are petrified of public speaking. In most polls of top fears,  public speaking comes above  death. Seriously, how can you be more afraid  of public speaking than dying! As Jay Leno quipped, “I guess we’d rather be in the casket than delivering the eulogy.”  Well it goes back to evolutionary biology. Early man wasn't the strongest or fastest but was protected by being in a group of humans, who could work together to catch food, protect and support each other. To be kicked out of the group would mean death. So we  still have this fear of doing anything that would make us kicked out of a group - see the article in psychology today

If fI told there was a way you could become an AMAZING speaker and never be lost for words, would you be interested? What if I told you that this way would also give you some fantastic friends and great experiences?

Well the secret is a global organisation called Toastmasters and all you have to do is go twice a month and before you know you'll be the master of any room.

 

So how does it work?

There are 1000s of clubs around the world - check out the website http://www.toastmasters.org/ and find a local club.

Most clubs meet twice a month for a couple of hours each time.

Most meetings have two halves with a short break in between. In one half there are table topics and  in the other half there are  prepared speeches.

Table Topics

 

Imagine you are sitting in the audience? The speaker at the front calls out your name and says a subject that you have not heard before.  You have until you stand up and get to the front of the room to prepare your speech and then you have to speak for a couple of minutes. Sound terrifying? Initially it is but after a while you learn there's a structure (into, body (with a few points) and conclusion) and you fill in the structure. After you practice a few times, you get used to this and soon  you will be sounding like a professional or expert and your friends will be wondering how you know so much! The abilty to think and speak  quickly is such an important skill to have and you learn it here.

Prepared Speeches

The second section  is where you give prepared speeches and critiques on the speeches. 

The basic step in Toastmasters is to do the Competent Communicator Manual. This consists of 10 speeches where you go from being a scared nervous wreck to  become a polished professional speaker.   

Each speech focuses on a different area so that you can really concentrate on one section and can get valuable feedback on what went well and what you can improve on for next time. The speeches are:

1 Icebreaker (4-6 minutes) 

This is the first speech and gets you speaking before an audience.
You learn to create an opening,  a middle (with 3 or 4 points and an ending.
You also practice developing your eye contact and get over the  initial hurdle of speaking in  front of an audience.

2 Organise your speech (5-7 minutes) 

In this speech, you learn to  assemble your speech in  a logical manner which makes it easier and  more enjoyable for the audience.

You learn to create a structure, e.g.
 
   Chronological
   Spatial
   Causal
   Comparative 
   Problem-solution

You also develop on the opening, body and close format you learnt in speech 1.

The opening should grab the audience's attention  (e.g. a startling question or challenging statement, a quotation, or a surprise). and then lead into the speech topic.

The body should have 3 or 4 main points and a few subpoints.  You should also pay attention to the  transitions.

The conclusion should reinforce your ideas and leave listeners with a lasting impression (e.g having the final line of the speech having a challenge, a question or an anecdote/quotation)

3 Get to the point (5-7 minutes) 

This to me is the most important of the 10 speeches and the most important point in any communication. How would you  define communication? To me it is the action that your audience does after your communication.
For this speech you must be clear what you want the audience to do or know after the speech. There are two purposes - general and specific.

4 How to say it (5-7 minutes) 

This speech teaches you how to select the right words and sentence structure to communicate your ideas clearly, accurately and vividly and to use rhetorical devices to enhance and empasize ideas, e.g you will be using:

Short paragraphs
Vivid words (senses)/ active not passive
Rhetorical device (arranging words to make idea or thought sound more pleasing and easier for listeners to remember)
Similies/Metaphors
Alliteration (repeated sounds - like  hallowed halls or  struts and frets)
Triads/power of 3
Use words economically
No jargon

5 Your body speaks (5-7 minutes)

This speech teaches you about body language, posture, stance, gestures, facial expressions, eye contact and stage presence. You learn to :

Keep good posture (not to nervously swing from side to side).
Move sideways as you tansition to another point
Move toward audience to emphasize important points.
Use movement to dramatize a point (eg throw a ball)
Gestures
Facial expressions (e.g. sadness [lower eyelids, turn down mouth slightly, bow head], surprise /disbelief  [widening eyes/raise eyebrows])

6 Vocal variety (5-7 minutes)

Your voice is one of the most powerful tools we have. It can start a war or tell someone 'I love you'. 

In this speech you learn how to use your voice to enhance the speech. You learn:

Breathing (abdomen/posture)
Volume
Pitch
Rate
Quality (friendly/harsh - relax)
The pause (this is the most powerful part of a speech)
Be expressive

7 Research your topic (5-7 minutes)

In this speech you collect information from numerous sources and carefully support your points with specific facts, examples and illustrations.

8 Get comfortable with visual aids  (5-7 minutes)

In this speech you learn to use visual aids to emphasize and enhance your speech. You learn:

How to maintain good eye contact while referring to a display
How to use aids to reinforce main points and enhance understanding
Display tips

9 Persuade with power (5-7 minutes)

In this speech you learn the art of persuasion. You need to think who  the audience is and  how you will persuade them (logic, emotion, understand what's in it for me, etc). You learn:

Types and structure of persuasion (inspire, convince, call to action)
Your role- the audience's opinion of you is important (are you knowledgeable, credible , qualified)
Burden of proof
Credibility
Logic
Using emotion - happiness, sadness, fear, anger ,guilt, love
WIIFM - whats in it for me
How to organise your message
Problem /solution
Proposition to proof (proposition statement, then proofs)
Comparative advantage
Problem statement-possible solutions (advantage/disadvantage). Why your solution is best
Motivated sequence
Getting attention and visualising
Getting action
Refute the opposition's argument starting with their strongest, concluding with their weakest (listeners remember best what they hear last so will think the oppositions position is weak. consequently your last point should be strongest as they will remember it)

10 Inspire your audience (8-10 mins)

In this speech you learn how to inspire your audience by:

Connecting with the audience (using Maslow's hierarchy of needs).

Using quotes/stories/anecdotes through the speech (human interest stories, anecdotes about overcoming adversity/achieving success)

Using  language that unites listeners and establishes a bond between you and them
Using vivid words
Using action verbs to convey power
Using positive words (not criticism, to stir them into action)
Appealing to the audience's needs and  emotions

 I love toastmasters. It is a conveyor belt to success. All you need to do, to be certain of being a great speaker, is to go to your local Toastmaster's club. http://www.toastmasters.org/

Toastmasters WILL MAKE you an amazing confident speaker, having the audience hooked on every word you are saying.  What are you waiting for?

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Bob Newhart-Stop It

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